Again, the rules are different for women.

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A blind item from Panache Report:

You don’t have to be a sports fan to know who this NBA star is. The open marriage he shares with his wife is slowly leaking out. She found out about his numerous outside kids as well as his jump-off and wifey.

She threatened to take him to the cleaners unless he agreed to an open marriage. She got involved with another NBA player. Rumor has it, our star had him traded.

They recently attended a very affluent and discreet swingers event for celebrities. He participated in a group orgy but became enraged when his wife engaged in sex with a celebrity at the party. He grabbed her and made a scene, telling her, “you are the mother of my kids, I dare you!” despite the fact he participated in an orgy. When she brought this up, he said, “men have different needs than women, accept it.”

According to our source, after she dressed, he roughly grabbed her by the arm and they exited the party.

But, but, but he brought his wife to the party!!!!!

If he didn’t want her there, why didn’t he tell her he was going out for an In N Out burger with his teammates?

Or bring his jump-off?

This picks up on the double standard that several men have when it comes to sex and infidelity. Translation: I can f**k whoever I want, when I want and how I want. You are the mother of my kids and have to adhere to a standard I dictate which means only my penis gets to be in your various holes.

It doesn’t matter if a man’s net worth is $1 or $100 million, he can justify this belief because it’s important that the mother of his children is a wholesome creature that could never ever desire another man. (I’m giggling at this, too.)

Why are men, STILL, embracing the impossible archetypes (madonna, whore, jumpoff, mommy) for women to aspire or stoop to? (Paging Eliot Spitzer.) It’s as if their upstairs and downstairs brains refuse to accept that a woman’s sexuality isn’t wrapped up in her ability to keep the human race going. And that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.

I wish that NBA star (and other men who think like him) would give all the women in his life the space to explore their sexuality to the fullest without imposing his warped psychosexual hangups.

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3 thoughts on “Again, the rules are different for women.

  1. Precisely! Until those double standards are done away with, we won’t get anywhere in the fight for sexual equality. Here’s to making tiny steps towards one day making that giant leap.

    Best,
    Jenny Block
    Author of “Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage”

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