But the real world isn’t Dash’s reality. She’s a Hollywood starlet with an exotic beauty that allows her to flow effortlessly between the black and white worlds. Her feet rarely touch the ground of the real world because they don’t have to. My guess is that Dash wasn’t talking to people of color at all when she tweeted her Romney endorsement. My guess is that Dash’s smooth brown skin has had and will have little impact on her social and political views, and those who consider themselves fans of the actress should take heed of that and keep it moving.
In the Arab World, domestic help is easy to come by. Even in Lebanon, where the GDP is only about $14,000 per capita, households can commonly afford a live-in maid. It takes as little as $150 a month to hire women flocking to the region from the Philippines, Sri Lanka, and various places in Africa. For the most part, rich and poor families alike throughout the Arab World have the luxury of inexpensive, readily available domestic help. I felt it was an unfortunate oversight on the part of the presenter to have ignored the fact that she more than likely has several maids and nannies doing her cleaning and laundry, preparing her family’s food, and taking care of her children.
At that moment, I vowed to always be honest about the fact that I would spend the next decades of my life building my family and career on the backs of other women who were simply looking for ways to help their families survive. The women who were then helping me care for my infant while I earned my degree didn’t have the luxury of debating which career path best suited their ambitions or family commitments.
Personally, I feel we are not owed nirvana because we exist or excel. We are owed the right to try, fail, succeed, tweak and try again until our personal idea of balance feels like it fits. And then to begin anew. Because perfection is a myth. The discussion about what it means to have it all is never ending because there are so many definitions to what that can mean….just as there are so many different types of people.