I was watching THE WAY WE WERE and…


Cheesy Song of the Day, December 30:
Don’t Rain on My ParadeBarbara Streisand

…and the movie was sad and a reminder why the last year has been difficult. It’s hard to be lonely. Sometimes I don’t know if I’m lonely or if I’m pining for Nate. Maybe it’s both? Either way, the year has been tough.  The holidays are even tougher.  I don’t tell myself how the holidays should be or what I should expect to feel — I just feel. And I feel awful. Sad, depressed and lonely.  I’m kinda hoping to feel less next year. Or maybe to try to not feel as awful as I do.

The recommendation of becoming comfortable with loneliness and not to fight it but to observe it is good but difficult to practice as often as I need to.  Or would hope to.  I don’t know why I can’t be loved. And that makes me very sad.


Scattered pictures of the smiles we left behind…


The Way We Were Cheesy Song of the Day Barbara Streisand

She wanted him to be her hero, not her savior.

Cheesy Song of the Day, July 15:

The Way We WereBarbara Streisand, Gladys Knight

I can listen to this without crying. But I can’t watch the movie without crying. Oh Hubbell, Katie was just too passionate and principled for you.   After repeated sobby viewings, I can say that I accept that you can’t love someone for who you wish they were.  Or who you hope they become.  Nor should you.

What’s YOUR Cheesy Song of the Day?

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Cheesy Song of the Day, January 20: ‘Stoney End’ Barbara Streisand


At 14, I didn’t understand what it meant to read between the lines in the good book Jesus.  I was just bopping along to the beat and adoring Barbara Streisand‘s interpretation of a Laura Nyro song.  At [REDACTED], I fully understand the good book, Jesus & the between the lines.  Another reason to celebrate those birthdays.

The Cheesy Song of the Day List, 2012


To recap: I started the Cheesy Song of the Day project because I spent the first day of 2012 on a crying jag.  So attractive!  Here’s the list so far:

January 1: ‘Celebrate Me Home’ Kenny Loggins

January 2: ‘Hey, Soul Sister’ Train

January 3: ‘Big Girls Don’t Cry’ Fergie

January 4: ‘Crazy For You’ Madonna

January 5:‘You’ve Come A Long Way, Baby’ Josie And The Pussycats

January 6: ‘Haven’t Met You Yet’ Michael Buble

January 7: ‘This Kiss’ Faith Hill

January 8: ‘A Thousand Miles’ Vanessa Carlton

January 9: ‘Jessie’s Girl’ Rick Springfield 

January 10: ‘Total Eclipse of the Heart’ Bonnie Tyler

January 11: ‘That’s Why I’m Here’ James Taylor 

January 12:  ‘Simple As That’ Huey Lewis and the News 

January 13:  ‘What If’ Babyface 

January 14: ‘If You Leave’  Orchestral Manoevers in the Dark

January 15: ‘King of Wishful Thinking’ Go West

January 16:  ‘Love Never Dies’ Patti LaBelle

January 17: ‘Making Love Out of Nothing at All’ Air Supply

January 18: ‘Never Should Have Let You Go’ Hi Five

January 19: ‘Don’t Dream It’s Over’ Crowded House

January 20: ‘Stoney End’ Barbara Streisand

January 21:  ‘All In Your Mind’ Mariah Carey  

January 22: ‘You’re Beautiful’ James Blunt

January 23: ‘Man!, I Feel Like A Woman’, Shania Twain

January 24: ‘Without You’ David Guetta

January 25: ‘Don’t Disturb This Groove’ The System

January 26: ‘Rush Rush’ Paula Abdul

January 27: ‘The Sign’ Ace of Base

January 28: ‘Before He Cheats’ Carrie Underwood

January 29: ‘Because You Loved Me’ Celine Dion

January 30: ‘Breakdown’ Mariah Carey

February 1: ‘When I’m With You’ Sheriff

February 2: ‘Everlasting Love’ Robert Knight

February 3: ‘Dress You Up’ Madonna

February 4: ‘Whataya Want from Me’ Adam Lambert

February 5: ‘Sunday Morning’ Maroon 5

February 6: ‘I Touch Myself’ Divinyls

February 7: ‘Company’ Dianne Reeves

February 8: ‘Come on Over (All I Want is You)’ Christina Aguilera

February 9: ‘I Wanna Dance With Somebody’ Whitney Houston

February 10: ‘There She Goes’ The La’s

February 11: ‘I Need You’ The Pointer Sisters

February 12: ‘Run-Around’ Blues Traveler

February 13: ‘What Do You Want the Girl to Do?’ Allen Toussaint

February 14: ‘Forever and Ever Amen’ Randy Travis

February 15: ‘I Can’t Hold Back’ Survivor

February 16: ‘One Step Forward’ The Ordinary Boys

February 17: ‘If I Could Turn Back Time’ Cher

February 18: ‘If You’re Gone’ Matchbox 20

February 19: ‘Never Knew Love Like This Before’ Stephanie Mills

February 20: ‘What You’ve Been Missing’ Starpoint

February 21: ‘All Dressed in Love’ Jennifer Hudson

February 22: ‘Bad Day’ Daniel Powter

February 23: ‘One in a Million’ The Romantics

February 24: ‘Blame It On The Girls’ Mika

February 25: ‘Just Like A Pill’ Pink

February 26: ‘Silly’ Deniece Williams

February 27: ‘Crying Like A Church on Monday’ The New Radicals

February 28: ‘Come to My Window’ Melissa Etheridge

February 29: ‘All I Have’ Jennifer Lopez & LL Cool J

March 1: ‘Islands in the Stream’ Kenny Rogers and Dolly Parton

March 2: ‘Through The Fire’ Chaka Khan

March 3: ‘Stay (I Missed You)’ Lisa Loeb

March 4: ‘Unwritten’ Natasha Bedingfield

March 5: ‘Tonight is What it Means to Be Young’, Fire Inc.

March 6: ‘Closer to Fine’ Indigo Girls

March 7: ‘Evaporated’ Ben Folds Five

March 8: ‘You Are The Universe’ Brand New Heavies

March 9: ‘Foolish Little Girl’ Dionne Bromfield

March 10: ‘I Wouldn’t Normally Do This Kind of Thing’ Pet Shop Boys

March 11: ‘If I Had A Million Dollars’ Barenaked Ladies

March 12: ‘Your Love’ Graham Central Station

March 13: ‘Don’t Let Him Steal Your Heart Away’ Phil Collins

March 14:  ‘If She Knew What She Wants’ The Bangles

March 15: ‘Man O War’ Prince

March 16: ‘A Little Warm Death’ Cassandra Wilson

March 17: ‘Tender Love’ Force M.D.’s

March 18: ‘Love On Top’ Beyonce

March 19: ‘Spring Can Really Hang You Up The Most’ Betty Carter

March 20: ‘Good Day’ Nappy Roots

March 21: ‘Endless Love’ Diana Ross & Lionel Richie

March 22: ‘This Must Be The Place (Naive Melody)’ Talking Heads

March 23: ‘Baby’ Gal Costa

March 24: ‘Sunday in Savannah’ Nina Simone

March 25: ‘Tenderness’ General Public

March 26: ‘Beautiful’ Smashing Pumpkins

March 27: ‘Did It in a Minute’ Hall & Oates

March 28: ‘Stephanie’ Buckingham Nicks

March 29: ‘You’re The One That I Want’ Olivia Newton-John & John Travolta

March 30: ‘Unbreakable’ Alicia Keys & ‘Intimate Friends’ Eddie Kendricks

March 31: ‘Piece of My Love’ Guy

April 1: ‘Hold On’ Wilson Phillips

April 2: ‘I Hope You Dance’ Lee Ann Womack

April 3: ‘While You See A Chance’ Stevie Winwood

April 4: ‘Can’t Be Stopped’ Janet Jackson

April 5: ‘Rainbow Connection’ Deborah Harry & Kermit the Frog

April 6: ‘Knock You Down’ Keri Hilson

April 7: ‘La Chanson des Jumelles’ Catherine Deneuve & Francoise Dorleac

April 8: ‘Open Your Eyes’ Bobby Caldwell

April 9: ‘Best of Me’ Chrisette Michelle

April 10: ‘Mary’s Prayer’ Danny Wilson

April 11: ‘You Can’t Stop the Beat’ Hairspray Cast

April 12: ‘Precious’ Esperanza Spalding

April 13: ‘Nick of Time’ Bonnie Raitt

April 14: ‘Romeo’s Tune’ Steve Forbert

April 15: ‘Sunrise’ Norah Jones

April 16: ‘When I Ruled The World’ Coldplay

April 17: ‘Without Love’ Aretha Franklin

April 18: ‘My Stupid Mouth’ Audra McDonald

April 19: ‘Get On Up’ The Esquires

April 20:  ‘La Vie Boheme’ Rent

April 21:  ‘Suzy & Jeffrey’ Blondie

April 22: ‘Please Pardon Me (You Remind Me of a Friend)’ Rufus featuring Chaka Khan

April 23: ‘Goodbye Girl’ Squeeze

April 24: ‘Can’t We Be Friends’ Ella Fitzgerald & Louis Armstrong

April 25: ‘Take You Out’ Luther Vandross

April 26: ‘You Don’t Know What Love Is’ Dinah Washington

April 27: ‘Fool of Me’ Me’Shell NdegéOcello

April 28: ‘I Just Wasn’t Made For These Times’ The Beach Boys

April 29: ‘The Look of Love’ ABC

April 30: ‘Everyday I Write the Book’ Elvis Costello

May 1: ‘Both Sides Now’  Measha Brueggergosman

May 2: ‘I’d Really Love to See You Tonight’ England Dan & John Ford Coley

May 3: ‘A Little Bit of Love’ Brenda Russell

May 4: ‘Crash Into Me’ Dave Matthews Band

May 5: ‘Here You Come Again’ Dolly Parton

May 6: ‘I Love Me Some Him’ Toni Braxton

May 7: ‘Carnival’ The Cardigans

May 8: ‘Livin’ Thing’ ELO

May 9: ‘Biggest Part of Me’ Ambrosia

May 10: ‘Angel’ Madonna

May 11: ‘Heart of the Matter’ Don Henley

May 12: ‘Tell It To My HeartTaylor Dayne

May 13: ‘Caught Up in You‘ 38 Special

May 14: ‘This Is It’ Melba Moore

May 15:  ‘Mama Never Told Me’ Sister Sledge

May 16:‘Changes’ Seu Jorge

May 17: ‘Walking in Memphis‘ Marc Cohn

May 18:  ‘Baby Can I Hold You’ Tracy Chapman

May 19: ‘Tell Me What We’re Gonna Do Now‘ Joss Stone

May 20: ‘No More Tears (Enough is Enough)’ Barbara Streisand/Donna Summer

May 21: ‘Brandy’ Looking Glass

May 22: ‘Girls in their Summer Clothes’ Bruce Springsteen

May 23: ‘The Fear’ Lily Allen

May 24: ‘Say You Miss Me’ Wilco

May 25: ‘Matchmaker’

May 26: ‘Give It Up, Turn It Loose’ En Vogue

May 27: ‘Cruel To Be Kind’ Nick Lowe

May 28: ‘Somebody to Love’ Queen

May 29: ‘Wonderwall’ Oasis

May 30: ‘Higher’ D’Angelo

May 31: ‘Afternoon Delight’ Starland Vocal Band

June 1: ‘Just Us’ Two Tons of Fun

June 2: ‘You Are My Friend’ Sylvester

June 3: ‘My Love is Free’ Double Exposure

June 4: ‘Kiss Me’ Sixpence None The Richer

June 5: ‘They Say I’m Different’ Betty Davis

June 6: ‘My Best Friend’s Girl’ The Cars

June 7: ‘Love Grows’ Edison Lighthouse

June 8: ‘Shadows of the Night’ Pat Benatar

June 9: ‘Beautiful’ Meshell N’degocello

June 10: ‘If You Really Love Me’ Stevie Wonder

June 11: ‘Silly Love Songs’ Wings

June 12: ‘Everything’ Mary J. Blige

June 13: ‘One Way Ticket’ Aretha Franklin

June 14: ‘My Back Pages’ The Byrds

June 15: ‘Call Me Maybe’ Carly Rae Jepsen

June 16: ‘What Makes You Beautiful’ One Direction

June 17: ‘So You Don’t Have To Love Me Anymore’ Alan Jackson

June 18: ‘The 59th Street Bridge (Feelin’ Groovy)’, Simon and Garfunkel

June 19: ‘Ladies’ Lee Fields & The Expressions

June 20: ‘Rainy Days and Mondays’ The Carpenters

June 21: ‘Where You Lead‘ Carole King & Louise Goffin

June 22: ‘The Long Way Around’ Dixie Chicks

June 23: ‘Memories’ Joi

June 24: ‘Sheep May Safely GrazeJohann Sebastian Bach

June 25: ‘Bad Reputation’ Joan Jett

June 26: ‘I Wanna Be Where You Are‘

June 27: ‘Ooh Child‘ The Five Stairsteps

June 28: ‘The Makings of You’ Curtis Mayfield

June 29: ‘One of Us Must Know (Sooner or Later)’ Bob Dylan

June 30:‘Shake It Off‘ Mariah Carey

July 1: ‘Best Thing I Never Had‘ Beyonce

July 2: ‘Love Is Right On’ The Emotions

July 3: ‘Hot Fun in the Summertime‘ Sly & the Family Stone

July 4: ‘Gotta Tell You‘ Samantha Mumba

July 5: ‘Don’t Get Around Much Anymore‘

July 6: ‘Je Cherche Un Homme’ Eartha Kitt

July 7: ‘I Wanna Have Some Fun‘ Samantha Fox

July 8: ‘Everything Happens For A Reason’ Zhane

July 9: ‘Up The Ladder to the Roof‘ The Supremes

July 10: ‘When You Were Young‘ The Noisettes

July 11: ‘This Year’ The Mountain Goats

July 12: ‘Boogie Oogie Oogie’ A Taste of Honey

July 13: ‘Breakout‘ Swing Out Sister

July 14: ‘Have You Ever Been Mellow‘ Olivia Newton-John

July 15: ‘The Way We Were‘ Barbara Streisand, Gladys Knight

July 16: ‘Moon River‘  Various

July 17: ‘You Are the Sun, You Are the Rain’ Lionel Richie

July 18: ‘VIP’ Jungle Brothers

July 19: ‘You Got The Love‘ The Source featuring Candi Staton

July 20: ‘Too Close For Comfort‘ Sammy Davis Jr.

July 21: ‘I Am a Rock‘ Simon & Garfunkel

July 22: ‘Harlem River Drive‘ Bobbi Humphrey

July 23: The Untouchables  Ennio Morricone

July 24: ‘Walking On Broken Glass‘ Annie Lennox

July 25: ‘Weekend in New England‘ Barry Manilow

July 26: ‘Shadow Dancing’ Andy Gibb

July 27: ‘Change the World‘ Eric Clapton & Babyface

July 28: ‘Aguas de Marco‘ Elis Regina & Antonio Carlos Jobim and ‘Waters of March’ Cassandra Wilson

July 29: ‘WeakSWV

July 30: ‘Big Girls Don’t Cry‘ Frankie Valli and  The Four Seasons

July 31: ‘One Step Up’ Bruce Springsteen

August 1: ‘Someone To Watch Over Me’ Amy Winehouse

August 2: ‘Extraordinary Machine‘ Fiona Apple

August 3: ‘If You All Get To Heaven‘ Terence Trent D’Arby

August 4: ‘Girl From The Gutter’ Kina

August 5: ‘Turn Back The Hands of Time’ Tyrone Davis

August 6: ‘Talking About My Love For You’ Stuff

August 7: ‘Sunshine Day’ The Brady Bunch

August 8: ‘What A Feeling (Theme Song from Flashdance)’ Irene Cara

August 9: ‘When Will I Be Loved‘ Linda Ronstadt

August 10:  ‘Build Me Up Buttercup’ The Foundations

August 11: ‘Love is All Around’ Joan Jett

August 12:  ‘Escape (Pina Colada Song)’ Rupert Holmes

August 13: ‘We Belong Together’ O-Town

August 14: “Perfect World” Liz Phair

August 15:  ‘Hopeless’ Dionne Farris

August 16: ‘Mrs. Potter’s Lullaby’ Counting Crows

August 17: ‘Feelin’ Alright’ Len

August 18: ‘Toxic’ Britney Spears

August 19: ‘The Youth’ MGMT

August 20: ‘So Hard’  Dixie Chicks

August 21: ‘Don’t Pull Your LoveHamilton, Joe Frank & Reynolds

August 22: ‘I Think I Love YouPartridge Family

August 23:  ‘If I Were A Boy’ Reba McEntire

August 24: ‘Time After Time’ Cyndi Lauper; Tuck & Patti

August 25: ‘So Good So Right’ Brenda Russell

August 26: ‘Left of Center’ Suzanne Vega

August 27:‘Stay With MeDeBarge

August 28: ‘I.O.U.’ Freeez

August 29: ‘The Fear of Being Alone‘ Reba Schappell

August 30: ‘All I Wanna DoSheryl Crow

August 31: ‘Breakdown’ Jack Johnson feat. Handsome Boy Modeling School

September 1:‘The Unicorn Song’ Agnes (Despicable Me soundtrack)

September 2: ‘A House is Not A Home’  Various

September 3: ‘Happy Ending‘ Mika

September 4: ‘Fairy Tales’ Anita Baker

September 5: ‘Dilemma‘ Nelly featuring Kelly Rowland

September 6: ‘(Last Night) I Didn’t Get To Sleep At All’ The Fifth Dimension

September 7: ‘Barbie Girl’ Aqua

September 8:‘Take On MeA-Ha

September 9: ‘Sugar SugarThe Archies

September 10: ‘Heat of the Moment’ Asia

September 11: ‘Theme from Valley of the Dolls Dionne Warwick

September 12: ‘Someday Someway’ Marshall Crenshaw

September 13: ‘When You Find Me’  Joshua Radin feat. Maria Taylor

September 14: ‘Mr. Big StuffJean Knight

September 15: ‘Just Don’t Want to Be Lonely’ The Main Ingredient

September 16: ‘LevonElton John

September 17: ‘Bette Davis EyesKim Carnes

September 18: ‘Hot N ColdKaty Perry

September 19: ‘Do Your Thing’ Lyn Collins

September 20: ‘Gives You HellAll American Rejects

September 21:‘All for YouSister Hazel

September 22: ‘Under The Sea’ The Little Mermaid soundtrack

September 23: ‘Don’t Sleep in the SubwayPetula Clark

September 24: The Facts of Life theme song, Various

September 25: ‘Time After Time‘ Various

September 26: ‘You Are The WomanFirefall

September 27: ‘I Want It That WayBackstreet Boys

September 28: ‘Get Happy‘ Judy Garland

September 29: ‘Straight from the Heart‘ Bryan Adams

September 30: ‘James’ The Bangles

October 1:‘Ever Changing Times’ Aretha Franklin feat. Michael McDonald; Siedah Garrett

October 2: ‘From A DistanceBette Midler

October 3:‘Precious and Few’ Climax

October 4: ‘Want Ads’  Honey Cone

October 5: ‘Steal AwayRobbie Dupree

October 6: ‘Missing YouJohn Waite

October 7: ‘Crush on YouThe Jets

October 8: ‘Alone Again’ Gilbert O’Sullivan

October 9: ‘I’ve gotta be meElla Fitzgerald

October 10: ‘Putting It All Together’ Jem and the Holograms

October 11: ‘Time Waits for No One’ The Jacksons

October 12: ‘She Drives Me Crazy‘ The Muppets

October 13: ‘The Candy Man‘ Sammy Davis Jr.

October 14: ‘Whoever You Are’ Geggy Tah

October 15: ‘The Difference’ The Wallflowers

October 16: ‘Zip-A-Dee-Doo-Dah’ Various

October 17: ‘You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling’ The Righteous Brothers; Hall & Oates

October 18: ‘Runnin’ Away’ Sly & the Family Stone

October 19: ‘Church of the Poison Mind’ Culture Club

October 20: ‘What Becomes of the Brokenhearted?’ Various

October 21: ‘Strangers’ Ed Harcourt

October 22: ‘Ladyfingers’ Luscious Jackson

October 23: ‘Friends’ Bette Midler

October 24: ‘Ice Cream’ Sarah McLachlan

October 25: ‘You Can Cry When You Get Older’ Robyn

October 26: ‘Montauk’ Rufus Wainwright

October 27: ‘Got To Be Real’ Cheryl Lynn

October 29: ‘Voices Carry‘ ‘Til Tuesday

October 30: ‘White Wave’ Portastatic

October 31: ‘Love In The First Degree’ Bananarama

November 1: ‘Dance With Me’ Orleans

November 2: ‘Take a Bow’ Rihanna

November 3: ‘I’m Not in Love’ 10cc

November 4: ‘What A Fool Believes’ Kenny Loggins; The Doobie Brothers

November 5: ‘Ain’t No Mountain High Enough’ Marvin Gaye & Tammi Terrell

November 6: ‘Until the Real Thing Comes Along’ Dexter Gordon

November 7:  ‘Baby I’m A Want You’ Bread

November 8: ‘Cracklin Rosie’ Neil Diamond

November 9: ‘In A Big Country’ Big Country

November 10: ‘Just When I Needed You The Most’ Randy Vanwarmer

November 11: ‘My Heart’ Tammi Terrell

November 12: ‘Memory Lane’ Minnie Riperton

November 13: ‘Lifetime’ Maxwell

November 16: ‘Reasons’ EWF

November 17: ‘Where Does the good go?’ Tegan and Sara

November 18: ‘Operator’ Jim Croce

November 19: ‘In Too Deep’ Genesis

November 20: ‘Tears Dry on Their Own’ Amy Winehouse

November 21: ‘The Look Of Love’ Dusty Springfield

November 22: ‘The Real Thing’ Sergio Mendes & The New Brazil ’77

November 23: ‘Everybody Plays The Fool’ The Main Ingredient

November 24: ‘I Won’t Dance’ Blossom Dearie

November 25: ‘Bumpy’s Lament’ Soul Mann & The Brothers

November 26: ‘There’s No Getting Over Me’ Ronnie Milsap

November 28: ‘When I Call You Friend’ Kenny Loggins & Stevie Nicks

November 29: ‘All The Way’ Billie Holiday

November 30: ‘No One Will Ever Love You’ Nashville

December 1: ‘All I Want For Christmas is You’ Mariah Carey

December 2: ‘Refill’ Elle Varner

December 3: ‘Don’t Bite Your Friends’ Yo Gabba Gabba

December 4: ‘I’ll Save You All My Kisses’ Dead or Alive

December 5: ‘Dyslexic Heart’ Paul Westerberg

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December 11: ‘Memory Chest’ Marvin Gaye & Tammi Terrell

December 12: ‘I Think I’m In Love with You’ Jessica Simpson

December 13: ‘You Were Meant for Me’ Jewel

December 14: ‘Angel in Your Arms’ Hot; Millie Jackson

December 15: ‘I Should Be So Lucky’ Kylie Minogue

December 16: ‘Against All Odds’ Phil Collins

December 17: ‘Sittin’ In My Room’ Brandy

December 18: ‘Fly Like A Bird’ Mariah Carey

December 19: ‘Ce Matin-La’ Air

December 20: ‘A Kiss to Build A Dream On’ Louis Armstrong

December 21: ‘Love Song’ Sara Bareilles

December 22: Peanuts theme Vince Guaraldi

December 23: ‘If This World Were Mine’ Various

December 24: ‘867-5309/Jenny’ Tommy Tutone

December 25: ‘My Favorite Things’ Various

December 26: ‘I Get Weak’ Belinda Carlisle

December 27: ‘Party All The Time’ Eddie Murphy

December 28: ‘All Through The Night’ Cyndi Lauper

December 29: ‘Raindrops Keep Falling On My HeadBJ Thomas

December 30: ‘Don’t Rain on My Parade’ Barbara Streisand

December 31: ‘Feel Again’ One Republic

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