Quote of the day….


Mr. and Mrs. Loving

Cheesy Song of the Day, December 23:
If This World Were MineLuther Vandross & Cheryl Lynn; Marvin Gaye & Tammi Terrell

There is no shame in my saying that we all want to be loved by someone. As I look back over my life in romance, I don’t feel I’ve ever had that. I have been the only one that was unaware of the fraud in a few of these circumstances blindly. When you get divorced, all the truths that come out, you sit there and you go, What the fuck was I doing? What was I doing believing that this person was invested in this way? Which is a fantastically strong humiliation in the best sense. It can make somebody very bitter and very hard and closed off, but I find it does the opposite to me.

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I know I’m not the only one that Vince Guaraldi introduced to jazz music….


Cheesy Song of the Day, December 22:
Peanuts theme, Vince Guaraldi

….talk about swinging!  I can’t stop dancing.  I don’t want to be friends with anyone who can’t get down to this. I don’t even want to know you exist.

For the record, I am Snoopy — you’ve been warned.

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I thought this was Colbie Caillat for the longest time….


Cheesy Song of the Day, December 21:

Love Song‘ Sara Bareilles

…so I resisted it. I think Colbie Caillat is a great songwriter, but there’s something about her singing that irks me.  I can’t articulate it yet.  Today, as I was dancing to the song, I see that the singer isn’t Colbie Caillat.

And the clouds parted.

I’m resisting something with a fierce stubborness  that makes me happy because of something I can’t even define AND because I’m as wrong as a giraffe using the toilet.  There is a lesson in this.  I will take the lesson and revel in the relief that it’s Sara Bareilles!

Ha ha!

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Today’s sweet thrill….


Cheesy Song of the Day, December 20:

A Kiss To Build A Dream OnLouis Armstrong

A few days ago, crossing the bridge on the Q train, I discovered that I can download ringtones like a fiend. And even more fun? Assigning the ringtones to specific callers!  This dreamy love song was the first assigned song…..and I get so happy every time it rings.

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if i were to write lyrics to this song….

jane austen air cheesy song of the day ce matin la the virgin suicides

But would she approve?

Cheesy Song of the Day, December 19:

‘Ce Matin-Là’ Air

the lyric would be Darcy.
I have Garage Band — I may record this jam for private use, of course!

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Don’t let the world break me tonight….


Cheesy Song of the Day, December 18:
Fly Like A BirdMariah Carey

Hi, my name is Tallulah Bankhead and I’m a Mariah Carey stan.  I don’t know how or when it happened but here we are. I even like that duet she did with Ferret Minaj.  There’s no turning back now. I accept my position in life.  I will not need your prayers, I have Mimi protecting me.

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How can one be down/tell me where to start….

sunflowers brandy sitting up in my room cheesy song of the day

in my room….

Cheesy Song of the Day, December 17:

Sittin’ Up in My RoomBrandy

Recently, I had a friend bail on a date.  We made plans to meet up and I put aside my anal-retentive nature and let him follow up with the details.  The appointed meeting time came and went.  And then I got a cowardly text full of apologies and regret.  The words didn’t matter because what I heard was: I’m pathetic, I don’t have my shit together, won’t you be super duper understanding of my patheticness because well I’m pathetic and you aren’t.

I think I responded with something flippant because I was so pissed, I deleted all the texts.  My friend has a complicated life — he’s co-parenting with two women who don’t seem to like him. (Caveat: I’ve only heard his side of the story.)  From conversations with him, I’ve learned that co-parenting is hard; co-parenting when the parents don’t seem to have any residue of affection between them is a hellish challenge.

I guess what pissed me off is if my friend isn’t really available to show up for friendship, why not say so?  I would prefer he told me straight out that his life doesn’t allow him to socialize, that his life is dictated by co-parenting challenges that take precedence.  I resent it when people in my social circle say they will show up yet flake. I have a low tolerance level for that kind of disappointment. It makes me feel like the burden is on me to be super understanding of a person’s limitations while making me feel angry (if you  told me you couldn’t come, I would have made other plans) and conflicted (why can’t I be more understanding that you are in a shitty life circumstance? Isn’t that  how to be a  good friend? But why not expect thoughtfulness  of my time & feelings?).  See?

After this trip down the expectations and friendship rabbit hole, I thought of Brandy’s ‘Sittin’ Up In My Room’.   It’s just easier if I make my own fun and not worry about having a friend accompany me.

What’s YOUR Cheesy Song of the Day?